I believe boundaries are the bridge to everything we desire… successful business, healthy relationships, self-trust over send-abandonment, prioritizing what’s important over what’s urgent, self-worth, our mission during this one big (messy) beautiful life, ease instead of overwhelm…
I believe there's a big difference between courage and bravery. Bravery requires my own energy and inner strength and defenses. Courage seems to require trust. Not so much my own strength. Except the strength to trust...especially to trust God.
I know brave has saved my life when I needed to stand up and be heard. Bravery was the impetus to say No More to harmful people. And bravery helped me say yes to what I knew to be true and would no longer tolerate.
A long slow life of being brave for myself and my children has left me tired.
Now I'm leaning into courage. I'm finding it too can not only save but restore a life.
I wonder what you think the difference is between bravery and courage?
Dear Laura: Bravery is the armor you wear when the world requires it. Courage is what happens when you finally set the armor down and discover you're still standing.
One protects you. The other transforms you. I think you just named something most people never find words for.
I had a similar life-changing experience with the VIA assessment. Zest was my first one. The thing I had been smothering and muting because I thought it was "too much" for others. Now I remind myself that I am "zesty" every morning.
OMG! I love this Cara! It's soo funny b/c Zest is the last one in my assessment and I used to make myself wrong for not being "zesty" enough :-) - now I get to laugh at myself and keep reamind myself that I'm learning every day how to be zesty :_ )
I had an 'aha' moment decades ago when I learned that young mom I knew--an artist in hiding--had a canvas set up in a nook to the side of her kitchen. She would dash over for 5-10 minutes at any opportunity--between feedings or crying bouts or at nap time--to work on her oil painting. She was prolific. It's all in the story you tell yourself.
My mornings are perfect,it is afternoon that goes hayware.The best part is that l am aware where the time goes.Today l managed to write about a bird Great Horn bill though didn't press the publish button.
For me what is hard is to organize my time since I get caught in so many different interests. All of them are relevant and take much of my time, while still having to care for my family, due to particular needs...as well as living in a city and commuting to a different one to work every week. But what really holds me back is the fear of exposure, self-inage issues and doubts about restrictions on my job, because professors have a so-called exclusive dedication here in my country and everytime I want to do something creative of my own I freeze because I feel like I would be going against some of the rules in my job (which I want to fully respect). This absence of clarity about things that I am allowed or not to do always hold me back on doing personal projects, so I end up channeling my energy to the job itself, which is much safer. Hopefully in the future there will be more clarity about the dos and don'ts and I will know better how to balance my work with other projects that I can develop appropriately.
Dear Fernando: Thank you so much for your open and honest share! I greatly appreciate your willingness to look deeper and explore what holds you back! I hear/see that the fear of being visible (fear of exposure) is really palpable for you. Let's take a look at your top 3 strengths and explore how we can use them to overcome/rewire/reprogram that fear. You can take the assessment here: https://TheStrengthsMultiplier.pro.viasurvey.org/ and we can chat some more about this. Cheering you on, M! you are doing amazing self work!
I love my grandfaughter, but I really don't like her. She's one of the mean girls.
Dear Gayla: I'm really sorry to hear that, my heart goes out to you! Sending you a big hug and lots of healing!
I believe boundaries are the bridge to everything we desire… successful business, healthy relationships, self-trust over send-abandonment, prioritizing what’s important over what’s urgent, self-worth, our mission during this one big (messy) beautiful life, ease instead of overwhelm…
Dear Lisa: thank you for this amazing re-frame: I love what you wrote: ease over overwhelm! Yes to that for sure!
I believe there's a big difference between courage and bravery. Bravery requires my own energy and inner strength and defenses. Courage seems to require trust. Not so much my own strength. Except the strength to trust...especially to trust God.
I know brave has saved my life when I needed to stand up and be heard. Bravery was the impetus to say No More to harmful people. And bravery helped me say yes to what I knew to be true and would no longer tolerate.
A long slow life of being brave for myself and my children has left me tired.
Now I'm leaning into courage. I'm finding it too can not only save but restore a life.
I wonder what you think the difference is between bravery and courage?
Dear Laura: Bravery is the armor you wear when the world requires it. Courage is what happens when you finally set the armor down and discover you're still standing.
One protects you. The other transforms you. I think you just named something most people never find words for.
I think courage meets you halfway AFTER you take a few steps. You don’t get it before. Blue💙
Love this definition, Blue!
I had a similar life-changing experience with the VIA assessment. Zest was my first one. The thing I had been smothering and muting because I thought it was "too much" for others. Now I remind myself that I am "zesty" every morning.
OMG! I love this Cara! It's soo funny b/c Zest is the last one in my assessment and I used to make myself wrong for not being "zesty" enough :-) - now I get to laugh at myself and keep reamind myself that I'm learning every day how to be zesty :_ )
I had an 'aha' moment decades ago when I learned that young mom I knew--an artist in hiding--had a canvas set up in a nook to the side of her kitchen. She would dash over for 5-10 minutes at any opportunity--between feedings or crying bouts or at nap time--to work on her oil painting. She was prolific. It's all in the story you tell yourself.
This is such a powerful example @Dr. Wendy Pabich ! Love, love this!
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My mornings are perfect,it is afternoon that goes hayware.The best part is that l am aware where the time goes.Today l managed to write about a bird Great Horn bill though didn't press the publish button.
Dear Kavya: congrats on the awareness, the writing and now I'm cheering you on in pressing the publish button! You've got this! M
For me what is hard is to organize my time since I get caught in so many different interests. All of them are relevant and take much of my time, while still having to care for my family, due to particular needs...as well as living in a city and commuting to a different one to work every week. But what really holds me back is the fear of exposure, self-inage issues and doubts about restrictions on my job, because professors have a so-called exclusive dedication here in my country and everytime I want to do something creative of my own I freeze because I feel like I would be going against some of the rules in my job (which I want to fully respect). This absence of clarity about things that I am allowed or not to do always hold me back on doing personal projects, so I end up channeling my energy to the job itself, which is much safer. Hopefully in the future there will be more clarity about the dos and don'ts and I will know better how to balance my work with other projects that I can develop appropriately.
Dear Fernando: Thank you so much for your open and honest share! I greatly appreciate your willingness to look deeper and explore what holds you back! I hear/see that the fear of being visible (fear of exposure) is really palpable for you. Let's take a look at your top 3 strengths and explore how we can use them to overcome/rewire/reprogram that fear. You can take the assessment here: https://TheStrengthsMultiplier.pro.viasurvey.org/ and we can chat some more about this. Cheering you on, M! you are doing amazing self work!