This is so helpful! I really appreciate the message here! I mentor a lot of women, but what really jumped off the page was finding the one to mentor me! It’s not easy to find women who understand this role never mind are willing to fill it. But you have given me something to think about, pray for and search out! Thank you! 🙏
Thank you Magdalena for sharing this. I so resonate with this. I have been waiting a long time for someone to believe in me before I could believe in my self. And even though there have been some mentors in my life I still haven't found her. When I didn't, I turned within to find that strength to take the next step. To be the her who I could not find. I'm in that phase where everyday I'm practicing through self talk. But I feel I need to be the identity before I can see it. That is where I'm stuck.
I know a lot of the articles on this Substack are targeted towards a female demographic navigating a career in the corporate world, but I can actually answer the first postscript here. Nearly 8 years ago I was still in university and I was struggling massively with life direction and good habits and academics and whatnot, and there was a woman I knew at the time, who one time did reassure me that I was going to be okay when I told her of my struggles. For a long time afterwards, I wished that she would come and mentor me out of the life struggles I was facing at the time, but she was busy and didn't have time, and then she went off to Italy for six months and then the coronavirus pandemic happened and everybody locked up. Eventually I made the realization that I can't sit around waiting for her to come back and mentor me, I have to become her and be the mentor to myself that I've wished she could have been.
Dear Mark: this is such a powerful idea! "be the mentor to myself that I've wished <the person> could have been." giving to ourselves what we need in a moment, the patience, the encouragement and the belief - believing in ourselves before others do! Thank you so much for sharing!
I think it’s such a different kind of support when you can think out loud without worrying about how you’re coming across. It made me wonder how many good ideas never fully develop because part of our attention is busy proving we belong in the room.
Dear Sara: you bring such an excellent point! I love what you said: "how many good ideas never fully develop because part of our attention is busy proving we belong in the room." - I'm sure a lot more than we care to admit to ourselves! that's such a great reflection inquiry!
Thanks for this read. I am probably older than most at sixty but for one week I would like to be in the presence of lady Diana. She was my idol and not for her beauty but for how she handled the crap thrown her way .She was an innocent teen thrown into the world of royalty thinking she was getting a prince . Before her wedding she realized her prince wore a mask and cheated yet she still walked down that aisle. She faced his mistress over and over. She outshined him and blossomed as a mom . Then finally she screw you all and left . She made me proud . I keep a photo of her ( actually three) hanging in my laundry room . She guides me . The second is the woman I want to be . Loving and fearless . Forgiving of myself for all my mistakes . Healthy and free of anxiety and all the burdens of life. Complete . Thankyou for the thought provoking article . Jennifer
Dear Jennifer: WOW! that's such a powerful share! thank you so much for your vulnerability and authentic sharing - I love how you said: " Loving and fearless . Forgiving of myself for all my mistakes . Healthy and free of anxiety and all the burdens of life. Complete ." that's so inspiring and I am positive that you already have all these traits - you might not be seeing them in yourself - yet! Cheering you on, M!
Thank you for this — I am up against the same exact blindness after leaving my career. I am tired of faking and performing to prove I belong. Letting the scales fall off my eyes so I can see myself clearly 🙏🏽💜
Dear Laura: thank you for this authentic and vulnerable share! I love how you are discovering and becoming the "new" you after leaving a career and stepping into your next adventure...Cheering you on, M
This is so helpful! I really appreciate the message here! I mentor a lot of women, but what really jumped off the page was finding the one to mentor me! It’s not easy to find women who understand this role never mind are willing to fill it. But you have given me something to think about, pray for and search out! Thank you! 🙏
Dear Laura: I'm so happy that it resonated with you! And I love your idea of finding the perfect mentor for who you are now! Cheering you on, M
Thank you so much! 🤩
Thank you Magdalena for sharing this. I so resonate with this. I have been waiting a long time for someone to believe in me before I could believe in my self. And even though there have been some mentors in my life I still haven't found her. When I didn't, I turned within to find that strength to take the next step. To be the her who I could not find. I'm in that phase where everyday I'm practicing through self talk. But I feel I need to be the identity before I can see it. That is where I'm stuck.
I know a lot of the articles on this Substack are targeted towards a female demographic navigating a career in the corporate world, but I can actually answer the first postscript here. Nearly 8 years ago I was still in university and I was struggling massively with life direction and good habits and academics and whatnot, and there was a woman I knew at the time, who one time did reassure me that I was going to be okay when I told her of my struggles. For a long time afterwards, I wished that she would come and mentor me out of the life struggles I was facing at the time, but she was busy and didn't have time, and then she went off to Italy for six months and then the coronavirus pandemic happened and everybody locked up. Eventually I made the realization that I can't sit around waiting for her to come back and mentor me, I have to become her and be the mentor to myself that I've wished she could have been.
Dear Mark: this is such a powerful idea! "be the mentor to myself that I've wished <the person> could have been." giving to ourselves what we need in a moment, the patience, the encouragement and the belief - believing in ourselves before others do! Thank you so much for sharing!
I think it’s such a different kind of support when you can think out loud without worrying about how you’re coming across. It made me wonder how many good ideas never fully develop because part of our attention is busy proving we belong in the room.
Dear Sara: you bring such an excellent point! I love what you said: "how many good ideas never fully develop because part of our attention is busy proving we belong in the room." - I'm sure a lot more than we care to admit to ourselves! that's such a great reflection inquiry!
Thanks for this read. I am probably older than most at sixty but for one week I would like to be in the presence of lady Diana. She was my idol and not for her beauty but for how she handled the crap thrown her way .She was an innocent teen thrown into the world of royalty thinking she was getting a prince . Before her wedding she realized her prince wore a mask and cheated yet she still walked down that aisle. She faced his mistress over and over. She outshined him and blossomed as a mom . Then finally she screw you all and left . She made me proud . I keep a photo of her ( actually three) hanging in my laundry room . She guides me . The second is the woman I want to be . Loving and fearless . Forgiving of myself for all my mistakes . Healthy and free of anxiety and all the burdens of life. Complete . Thankyou for the thought provoking article . Jennifer
Dear Jennifer: WOW! that's such a powerful share! thank you so much for your vulnerability and authentic sharing - I love how you said: " Loving and fearless . Forgiving of myself for all my mistakes . Healthy and free of anxiety and all the burdens of life. Complete ." that's so inspiring and I am positive that you already have all these traits - you might not be seeing them in yourself - yet! Cheering you on, M!
Thank you for this — I am up against the same exact blindness after leaving my career. I am tired of faking and performing to prove I belong. Letting the scales fall off my eyes so I can see myself clearly 🙏🏽💜
Dear Laura: thank you for this authentic and vulnerable share! I love how you are discovering and becoming the "new" you after leaving a career and stepping into your next adventure...Cheering you on, M